The Composite Perfect Woman

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The Composite "Perfect" Woman Sandy Rathe April 19, 2016


“God has a magnificent and wonderful design for women. It is a design which will fulfill their created purpose, maximize their uniqueness, make them a blessing to the world, and bring fulfillment to their own lives and glory to the name of God.” MacArthur

“a portrait of feminine wisdom” - Brownback

Her character as a wife
1. She is trustworthy in all areas of her marriage (Prov. 31:11)
* the most important and intimate relationship in the home is built on trust
2. She is concerned to do her husband "good", not evil at all times (Prov. 31:12; Titus 2:4-5)
* She loves her husband (philandrous) (Titus 2:4)
o Phileo love is the love of a beloved companion (Gen. 2:18). It is the “love between very close friends” a “tender, affectionate, passionate kind of love” that “emphasizes enjoyment and respect in a relationship.” - Carolyn Mahaney
* She "helps" her husband (Gen. 2:18)
o We have the privilege to be God's appointed helper for our husbands. We are designed to help him become all that God intends for him to be.
* She respects her husband (Eph. 5:33) and doesn't shame him (Prov. 12:4)
o “God has designed your husband to need respect, and He has commanded you to be the principal source of it.” - Nancy Wilson
* She submits to her husband willingly thereby honoring God (Titus 2:5; Col 3:18)
o “A woman who trusts in God can rest in her submission to her husband and can do good in her calling as wife…” - Nancy Wilson
3. her husband is known in the gates (Prov. 31:23)
* "her husband has an influential, important position because of the kind of wife he has. The evidence of being an effective wife is not that she sits in the gate, but that her husband does." - Gil

Her diligence as a homemaker
* She “WORKS at home” (Titus 2:5; 1 Tim. 5:14)
o She is not idle; she is not a busybody (1 Tim. 5:13)
o She delights in providing for her family's needs; there is joy in her labor v. 13
o v. 18 "She senses that her gain is good" She is motivated to provide for her family because it is good for them...all of her efforts brings them joy. (Col. 3:23)
o This woman does not neglect her appearance. She adorns her beauty for her husband. (Prov. 31:22; 1 Tim. 2:9-10; 1 Pet. 3:3-4)
o Our lives are to be busy doing "good" and God will supply us with all the time, energy, and ability we need to glorify Him as we manage our homes.

Her compassion/hospitality towards others
* She is personally involved as she meets the needs of others (Deut. 15:11; Prov. 31:20, 9)

Her influence and blessings as a mother
* She considers her children as a blessing from the Lord (Psalm 127:3-5)
* She loves (phileo) her children…tender, affectionate love (Titus 2:5)
* She lives as a godly example to her children (Prov. 31:25)
* She trains her children with godly wisdom (Prov. 31:26; Prov. 22:6)
o Teaching obedience and respect for parents (Prov. 6:20; Eph. 6:1; Ex. 20:12; Eph. 6:2)
* Her attitude is one of lovingkindness (Prov. 31:26; Eph. 4:29)
o The ultimate purpose of phileo love is “nothing less than the salvation of our children’s souls. This is the chief end of mothering.” Carolyn Mahaney
* Timothy’s mother and grandmother are examples of a godly influence (2 Tim:1:5; 2 Tim. 3:15)
* Her reward is the praise of her children (v. 28), her husband (v. 29) and those in the city (v. 30)

Her relationship with God (Prov. 31:30)
God's instructions are simple but impossible to carry out without an ongoing, vital relationship with Him. He is our help; He is our strength and He WILL provide everything we need to live a godly effective life as women.
How blessed is everyone who fears the LORD, who walks in His ways. When you shall eat of the fruit of your hands, you will be happy and it will be well with you. (Psalm 128:1-2)

God's Design for Godly Women:Older/Younger Married Women; Widows; All women

The “Perfect” woman

Titus 2 woman

Widows
Divine Design

All women
of faith
Proverbs 31 applies wisdom to her daily life
Titus 2:5 sensible (live wisely; sound judgment)

Gen. 2:18 suitable helper
Proverbs
Proverbs 31:11
Faithful/trustworthy
Titus 2:5 pure; 1 Peter 3:2 chaste behavior

Gen. 2:24
1 John 3:3
Proverbs 31:12
“does him good”
Titus 2:4 love their husbands

Gen. 2:18 beloved companion
Rom. 12:10 devoted in brotherly love
Proverbs 31:12
“does him good
Titus 2:5 subject to their own husbands; ALSO Eph 5:22; Col 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1, 5-6

Genesis 2 (order of creation); Gen. 2:18; Gen. 3:16

Proverbs 31:13-19, 21-22, 24, 27 (provides well for her household)
Titus 2:5 workers at home
1 Tim. 5:14 keep house
Gen. 2:18 suitable helper
Col. 3;23-24
Work heartily
Proverbs 31:20
compassion and hospitality to others
1 Tim. 2:10 adorn themselves with good works
1 Tim. 5:10 reputation for good works, devoted to every good work, shown hospitality, service to the saints, assisted those in distress
Gen. 2:18 suitable helper
Col. 3:12
Put on heart of compassion
Proverbs 31:23 ALSO Proverbs 12:4 …is a “crown” to her husband
Eph. 5:33; respect her husband; ALSO 1 Peter 3:2 respectable behavior

Gen. 2:18 suitable helper
Rom. 12:10 give preference in honor
Proverbs 31:25 strength, dignity
Titus 2:3 reverent in their behavior

Gen. 2:18 suitable helper

Proverbs 31:25 teaches wisdom
Titus 2:3 teaching what is good



Proverbs 31:25
teaches kindness
Titus 2:5 kind

Gen. 2:18 suitable helper
Eph. 4:32
Be kind to one another
Proverbs 31:26-28
Influence as mother
Titus 2:4 love their children
1 Tim. 5:10 brought up children
Gen. 2:24, 3:16

Proverbs 31:30 fears the LORD
Titus 2:5 that the word of God may not be dishonored
1 Tim. 5:14 give the enemy no occasion for reproach



Additonal Resources:
Feminine Appeal - Carolyn Mahaney
The Fruit of Her Hands – Nancy Wilson